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“At this stage in life, especially for women who have been a caregiver for a deceased spouse, independence is very important,” says Wendy Watson, co-author of a 2011 study, “Dating for Older Women: Experiences and Meanings of Dating in Later Life,”.
Her research found that women often are the ones who are marriage shy.
As my significant other was scoffing at my insistence that it’s tough for women to find good men once they’re over age 45 much less 50, I reminded him that I possess plenty of experience in matters of Second Life Socializing.
First, there is the fact that before meeting him, I spent nearly seven years on and off dating sites – and on two continents. In the US, I was likely to hear from men 10 to 20 years older.
But if there is a significant gap, when the aging process progresses, over time it becomes a non-relationship.” I nodded, as he continued: “Generally speaking, if I’m going on a site to have sex with younger women, then it makes sense. Unwilling to give up my search for data, I find more useful tidbits on the non-American press.
But if I want a real relationship, one that will last, I want someone close to my own age.” “You’re a rare bird,” I said. For example, The Guardian UK addresses the challenges of midlife dating for single women in this article, which quotes a writer who describes the no man’s land where many middle-aged females find themselves.
For others sex in their new relationships was satisfying, but was not as important to them as it was when they were younger.
As one study participant who had remarried expressed it, sex was “the icing on the cake. ” It’s also a misconception to assume that women 50 and up who are widows, divorcees, or are otherwise single have their sights set on remarrying, forming a long-term relationship, or even just dating again.
Beyond my own anecdotal assumptions, I also have many 50-year-old friends (and readers) across the country, who are well acquainted with the older man-younger woman phenomenon – even among aging boomers. “Not just a younger body in bed, but a trophy on the arm, a woman who is less likely to contradict him, a woman less likely to compete with him even inadvertently, and less need to compromise.
I had just read a comment by a 50-something-year-old woman who has not been successful at finding a relationship in the Atlanta area.
She is considering relocation, and hoping for more options elsewhere.
“Why do you think so many women lie about their age – especially online – regardless of how they look or feel? The anonymous woman, whose blog is called The Plankton, is not alone in believing that there are problems specific to being a single woman in middle age.
” And he is indeed a rarity, which I would like to back up with numbers, though finding the appropriate statistics remains a challenge. A survey this month found eight out of 10 women over 50 think they have become invisible to men. The men who are honest, and unlike my European gentleman friend, more likely to want what theoretically promises to be an easier pairing, at least temporarily? (We do.) Nor am I saying that practical matters like health and finance aren’t important.